Be "happy-sad" and not "sad-sad" ...

Does the title of this post ring n e bell ?? Nah .... then you've missed watching one of the good movies lately "Cheeni Kum "... It goes like this :

Sexy (the girl , who happens to be Amitabh's friend) speaks to him when he s hurt 'coz of Tabu and this is what she has to say...
" Hum sad kyon hote hain ? Hum sad hain kyon mann heavy - heavy hai ...
Mann heavy-heavy kyon hai ? Kyon ki mann ko kisine hurt kiya hai ....
Mann ko kaun itna hurt kar sakta hai ? Jo mann ke very very close ho ...
Kaun mann ke very very close hota hai ? Jiske saath mann happy - happy feel karta hai ...
So be happy - sad and not sad -sad .... "


This scene has become one of my favorites and n e time I feel low 'coz of n e thing I need to just watch this n some how i just get back to my original self .... Also , this is one of the scenes which has made me think abt certain issues in life which otherwise we'd like to neglect.

Being happy-sad has become the new funda now ...

A situation i'd like to tell you abt is , when the love we have for a person is not resiprocated back to us in the way we want it to then we kinda start feeling all negative about that person .We try finding faults with the person and at the same time we somehow loose the respect we have for him/her and eventually end up being depressed to the max extent.

I guess , the best funda here would be to be "happy -sad" and not "sad-sad" ....Nahin samjhe ?
simple yaar... we loved the person for the simple reason that we loved being with them , it made us feel happy...So , now by finding fault with the person , we are in a way degrading our feelings for the person and that is nothing but degrading ourselves...

So , the simple solution to it would be , like i've said be happy sad - happy for the fact tat u've actually truly felt something for a person , and a lil sad coz it dint turn out the way you wanted it to....

we never put a conditon b4 loving tat it has to be reciprocated back rite? So , why feel so negative abt it now ?? Respect the person for what he/she is ... respect the feelings you had for him/her and be happy .....

Seems very filmi rite ??? but i guess this is the best thing to do ..Instead of developing a feeling of hatred towards the person which will eventually lead to a situation where in you would never feel like listening to n ething related to him /her and feel bad bad for what has happened....


Instead be happy and let others be happy .......

But again like everybody says ... "Bolna assan hai par nibhana mushkil hai " ... arey yaar try karke toh dekho ... I m sure it will work out well and then you'd never have to feel sad about n e thing ... Or even you are sad, there has to be a silver lining to it ....


Toh dost log, try this funda sometime ... n see if it helps you ... It worked for a few of them I know... and felt i shuld be sharing this gyan with you too ....

N not just in matters of luv.. i think it will work in almost every situation....

aap bhi apna gyan baato... gyan baatne se aur badhta hai ..:)

will try posting the video here ......will make it easy for you to understand how imp funda it is...
till next post .. Dont be sad ... be happy-sad .....

OOps.... Just be HAPPY ... :)